Updated: Feb 22
When I first met Amit, he looked confused about his business. We started talking about it, and he started sharing that he loves what he does, but it’s stressful & highly competitive. He found it challenging to communicate with people & understand their viewpoints. He couldn’t say ‘no’ & was finding it a little challenging to cope with the situation. This scenario is familiar to many around us.
In personal lives, we see parents who can connect with their kids effortlessly, friends & siblings who outshine. There's something different in them. They have those additional qualities we can call life skills, such as the ability to communicate clearly, manage their time effectively, interpersonal skills, empathy, ability to say ‘no’ appropriately, to name a few.
‘Life skills are the skills we can take wherever we go in life, no matter what we do’, said Millie Hogue. These skills are not tied to any specific job, and neither they are tied to any personality type, like introverts & extroverts. They are general attributes of people that help them thrive personally as well as professionally.
Many of us have thoughts like, I wish I knew the answers to my problems, I wish everybody could see how difficult my issues are, how to make my child understand when she’s wrong without starting a fight with her, why is everyone advising me when I haven’t done anything wrong, why can’t my son just listen & talk to me to make me happy and even, if I share my happiness with others, would I sound boastful, and many similar questions are pretty common, at least what I have encountered with myself and while speaking with others. We face issues but don’t know who to talk to, how to find a solution or sometimes what can be the best solution in my situation, as our mind is full of judgements not about others but ourselves as well.
People who are easy to talk to, have an open mind, listen actively and stay grounded, are always in high demand. Skills such as effective communication are used to build relationships. You need these skills to negotiate the price with potential buyers or when buying your new house. You use these unknowingly while mentoring yours or your neighbours' children. Not all of us have all these skills inherently. Nevertheless, these skills can be learned, and that’s a life coach’s job.
I did a little research for an upcoming project & understood that majority of people find it hard to say ‘no’. It wasn’t surprising because I felt the same a few years back. I realised that while growing up, I was conveyed by my surroundings that saying no means you are rude, selfish & unhelpful. Saying yes means you are cooperative, ready to help others & easy going. But at what cost? Nobody told me this, and hence I figured that out myself.
Whenever something is bothering you, and you aren’t sure how to deal with it, it is wise to ask for help. Life coaching is one of the common ways to seek help. A life coach is not someone more intelligent than you, instead, they are trained to help someone progress in life, whether it’s relationships, career or personal life.
Life coaching can be of great help,
● to identify & break habits that aren’t helping you
● to figure out your barriers
● to help you identify your strengths and areas of concern
● to leverage your strengths to address your areas of concern
● to clarify the real cause of your stress
● to determine your thought pattern
● to help you find peace within and out
● to help you unlearn your limiting beliefs and learn new ones
● to eliminate long-held fears and anxieties
● to improve self-reflection and overall quality of life
● to give you a safe space to talk about anything
Above are a few ways in which life coaching can be helpful, but that’s not all. Life coaching is a friendly & compassionate way of helping you reach your goals and live a meaningful and empowered life.
● Life coaching sessions can be conducted in person or online. Choose what suits you best.
● Speak in advance with the life coach you are planning to work with. This helps in knowing if their way of talking and philosophy resonate with yours.
● Be clear about what you want to focus on during sessions.
● Each session should not only be empowering but must leave you pondering.
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