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Updated: Mar 24, 2022

Two kids were playing outside in a garden slightly away from their homes. They were so engrossed that they didn’t notice when the winds began to blow, carrying dust particles. By the time they could understand, it changed into a storm, and the visibility around them became poor. They could only see dirt and wind blowing at a very high speed. They panicked and climbed on a tree for safety and started calling for their mothers in

distress. It didn’t take long for both the mothers to hear their children in pain. They rushed back outside, only to find their children at dangerous spots, holding the branches of a tree. One of the mothers shrieked, ‘Don’t fall! Don’t fall!’ while the other screamed, ‘Hold on, my child, hold on!’ The storm was too strong for anyone to be able to do anything. The children kept wailing while mothers kept on consoling their children in fear. They kept repeating, ‘don’t fall’ and ‘hold on’ to their respective child. It went on for a few more minutes, and one of the children fell from the tree and got slightly injured. The other child kept holding and was taken down safely when the storm finally started to fade away. Any guesses which child was still holding on and which one fell? Yes, right, the one whose mother reassured him to keep holding was still holding on while the one whose mother said not to fall fell.

This is just a story, but I would like you to consider how your words make a difference in your life and the lives of your loved ones.

Around 20 years back, someone gifted me a book, ‘Power of your subconscious mind’ by Joseph Murphy. The most important thing I learned was one of the techniques Mr Murphy suggested in the book. That is to change all our negative statements into the affirmative. E.g., ‘Don’t fall’ to ‘Hold on’ and ‘I don’t want to fall sick’ to ‘I want to feel healthy.’ He insists on changing our thinking patterns to speak what we want and not what we don’t want to attract the same in our lives.

Our experiences play an essential role in the way we speak. We, sometimes, tell certain words unintentionally that can be harmful. Here, I’ve tried to compile words we generally say or hear in context to kids and young adults and an alternate one for it that sounds and feels better. Feel free to add more such statements in the comments section.

1. Don’t throw your toys around.

Keep your toys in place.